With couples, I focus on the emotional bond between you and the patterns you get caught in together. Rather than deciding who is “right” or “wrong,” we look at the cycle you both get pulled into, such as behaviours of pursuing, withdrawing, shutting down, and criticising, as well as the feelings and fears underlying them. From an attachment-based, informed-psychodynamic perspective, we explore how past experiences and expectations may be replaying in your relationship now, and practise new, safer ways of reaching for each other and responding. The aim is to help you both feel more understood, more secure, and better able to navigate conflict together.